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We often make some very peculiar and regrettable choices on the basis of a hidden and unmentioned fear: that of being alone. But once we realise that there isn't, in fact, anything to fear about being on our own, we'll be liberated to make some far healthier decisions.Uploaded 01-01-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/J6oOfBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/6FQDFFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/2tEYiMX“It’s not hard to understand the fear of being alone: the empty apartment after work, the eerieness of Sunday afternoons, the sense of exclusion during the holidays… We know the agonies of being on our own very well. What is far less well understood, and less eloquently or frequently described, is the enormously…

For too long, some of us are silent, afraid of voicing what we really want and telling others the important things that they need to hear. It isn't a good policy and with great care and compassion for ourselves, we deserve slowly to learn to discover our own voice.Uploaded 08-01-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/boapr Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/FDXb3FURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/2QCmgSl“Despite a lot of encouragement, despite political freedoms and psychological exhortations, we suffer, still, most of us, in silence. We don’t say quite say – until it is way too late – what is wrong, what we want, how we are angry, what we’re ashamed of and the way we would like things to be…”MORE SCHOOL OF…

We're often held back by a crippling fear that we can't possibly do certain things because other people will judge us. But for those of us hemmed in by self-consciousness of this kind, there is very good news on the horizon. Amazingly, partly depressingly and partly redemptively, in reality, no one much cares...Uploaded 15-01-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/p349pBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/2D0-1FURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/38cou0B“We tend to begin our lives with a deeply unrepresentative experience: that of being surrounded by people who care to an extraordinary extent about us. We look up from the dreams and confusions of early infancy and may find a smiling face or two observing us with the…

We often imagine that the best way to endear ourselves to others is never to bother to them - and always to fit in with their plans. But that's to miss out on a great yet hidden truth of social life: in certain circumstances, people quite like to be asked for help; friendship builds when we can make ourselves vulnerable enough to show our need.Uploaded 22-01-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/_Q3QXBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/bdm-ZFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/2G9zD6m“We tend to operate with the view that the best way to please people is not to bother them too much. We keep many of our dilemmas and confusions away from those we like, for fear of irritating or inconveniencing them and so spoiling the…

There's nothing more common and yet more peculiar than our habit, in certain moods, of feeling nostalgic for lovers whom we spent a good deal of time trying to escape from. What is this feeling and can it be trusted?Uploaded 29-01-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/_ksaoBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/Fj5UsFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/3aRhdWc“After considerable agony, we’ve left a relationship. We’re on our own now – and, when we can bear to be honest, it’s a little harder than we expected. We aren’t going on many dates; the central heating broke down last week; the shopping is proving a hurdle. In idle moments, we find ourselves daydreaming, returning fondly to certain occasions in the concluded…

Our schools teach us about trigonometry, the 100 years war and the properties of atoms - but they too often forget to address the one topic we really need to understand in order to make sense of our lives: ourselves.Uploaded 05-02-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/A99OvBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/TnEorFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/3baWa0R"There is perhaps no greater priority in childhood than to acquire an education: it’s in the early years that we have to push ourselves with special vigour to learn the lessons, and acquire the experience, that will help us successfully manoeuvre around the pitfalls of adult life. By studying hard and intelligently, we’ll have the best chance of avoiding a…

It’s remarkably easy to spend most of one’s life in a blind rage. So much of existence is, after all, infuriating. But there are other options to be painfully and slowly learnt. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/os_hI Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/DSGyd SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ X: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Brought to you by http://www.theschooloflife.com Produced in collaboration with Avi Ofer http://www.aviofer.com/ #TheSchoolOfLife ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some of us live in such dread of ending a relationship, we'd rather sacrifice our chances of long-term happiness rather than endure a tricky few hours. But the discomfort of endings can be overcome once we understand that ending a relationship doesn't have to mean ruining things for a partner, it can actually mean saving their lives.Uploaded 12-02-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/1eNyTBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/ig9C7FURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/31NTB0d“Let us imagine that we know what we want – to leave a relationship – but that we are suffering from a problem which inhibits us from acting on our wishes: we can’t bear to cause another person pain, especially another person towards whom we feel a…

Every life is in the end made up of a succession of moods - happy ones and sad ones, despairing ones and joyful ones. When we're in our better moods, we sometimes think we might be able to stabilise our moods completely in an optimal direction - and never shift into the more troublesome ones. But the art of living isn't to banish our moodiness, it's to learn to navigate it with wisdom and humour.Uploaded 19-02-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/CWilIBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/h0w1yFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/37EQJUW“Far more than we are inclined to accept and sometimes even realise, we are creatures of mood: that is, our sense of our value as human beings is prone to extraordinary fluctuation. At…

Life is - it goes without saying - for the most part a tragic affair. But being clear-eyed about the horror shouldn't prevent us from taking great pleasure in the things that go right; we can laugh on our way to the gallows.Uploaded 26-02-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/kMiZFBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/fAvPjThe School of Life runs a global online psychotherapy service that assists clients from over 40 countries. To find out more and book a session today, please visit our website: https://t.ly/xP3ELFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/3c9iW9I“The arguments for approaching life in a grave, serious and unsmiling mood are overwhelming: we are clearly a profoundly wicked species, we continually perpetrate…

Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/vfM-PUploaded 04-03-20Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/HIXN7FURTHER READINGYou can read more on this, here: https://bit.ly/2Tjy3Ga“We are, a lot of us, a great deal sadder, more anxious, more incomplete and more restless than we really need to be because of something very large that is missing from our lives. What’s worse, we don’t even know what this thing is and how much we crave it, because we don’t have the right concepts, experience or encouragement to help us locate it. What we long for and are slowly dying without is: community. They tell us that we are suffering for all sorts of reasons: because we’re afraid of intimacy or are low on serotonin, are beset by anxiety or trauma or are chronically dysfunctional around…

You can now become a channel member here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog/joinUploaded 11-03-20Emotional immaturity is hugely hard to spot - often lurking in people who, from the outside, look more or less their age. This is an indispensable guide to identifying the worst kinds of emotional immaturity, understanding where these come from and how we might handle them. Sign up to our mailing list to receive 10% off your first order with us: https://r1.dotdigital-pages.com/p/6TU0-63X/hellotsolIf you want to keep working on your mental well-being and self-understanding, download our hugely helpful new app now: https://bit.ly/3uyXqG1For information on The School of Life’s learning and wellbeing solutions for businesses, including workshops and talks, visit https://bit.ly/3ICqvGw Email business@theschooloflife.com or join our monthly business newsletter: https://bit.ly/3ICEJHq Join this channel to get access to exclusive members…

It's a nightmarish scenario of course, that we might never find the sort of love we long for. And yet, being prepared for such an eventuality lies at the heart of the art of living - for it is only once we are properly reconciled to the possibility of never finding love that we can be liberated from romantic ideals and can start to appreciate what remains beautiful and meaningful.Uploaded 18-03-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/-FRCXBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/xMwZoFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/38ZXHEF“From the start of adulthood, we have been waiting. We understood love intuitively long before it was ever a practical possibility. We knew that it was bound up with a sense of being profoundly…

In exceptional circumstances, we need a philosophy that can help us hold on to our sanity and sense of perspective. Here is The School of Life's suggestions for how to survive the crisis emotionally.Uploaded 25-03-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/tcSgt Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/rvQlkThe School of Life runs a global online psychotherapy service that assists clients from over 40 countries. To find out more and book a session today, please visit our website: https://t.ly/xP3ELFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/3aszate“– ACCEPT: We are a miraculous, unlikely fragile species in a mysteriously oxygenated corner of the universe. We have never been and never will be complete masters of our circumstances, we…

There is no more important book to understand our times than Albert Camus's The Plague, a novel about a virus that spreads uncontrollably from animals to humans and ends up destroying half the population of a representative modern town. Camus speaks to us now not because he was a magical seer, but because he correctly sized up human nature. As he wrote: ‘Everyone has inside it himself this plague, because no one in the world, no one, can ever be immune.’ Uploaded 01-04-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/RPixL Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/sbiaBFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this here: https://bit.ly/2xCcZ5CMORE SCHOOL OF LIFEWatch more films on Literature in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLliteratureSOCIAL MEDIAFeel free to follow us at the links…

Emotional maturity isn't just something we can achieve in the good times. It's a quality that can accompany us through the deepest crises. A key idea to keep in mind is that it isn't chiefly what happens to us that affects our lives, it's how we learn to think about what has happened - and that, fortunately, is very much within our control.Uploaded 08-04-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/GQRnbBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/0fpiTFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/3e6CufV“Some of us belong to a social group politely known as ‘worriers.’ That is, we are close to panic on a range of issues pretty much all the time. We worry that the scratch on our knee will turn cancerous, that we’ll catch a deadly disease from…

The School of Life is an organisation built to help you find serenity, resilience and connection. Here are 8 rules designed to guide you to the life you deserve, 8 key ideas to hold on to during difficult times.Uploaded 15-04-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/zhmnhBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/mbrbVFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/3b9zoGn“The School of Life has produced 500 films and written 5 million words. This is an enormous problem. To stand any hope of remaining in anyone’s mind, ideas – even very good ideas – need to be brief and reduced to an essence. That’s why, for the sake of our followers, we’ve summarised everything we believe down to eight key points: the credo of The School of Life…”MORE…

Dancing is one of the most releasing and necessary of all activities - but we too frequently hold back from the worry that we 'can't dance.' This film usefully reminds us that there's no such thing as not being able to dance, that the whole point is to move about wildly without shame - and that in doing so, we connect with others and with important forgotten bits of ourselves.Uploaded 22-04-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/MLdmiBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/FimyQFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/3cpPdJ0“One of the strangest but also most intriguing and redemptive things that humans get up to, in almost any culture one cares to study, is occasionally to gather in large groups, bathe in the rhythmic sounds…

Sometimes, in a cosy moment, one lover might ask another: What do you love me for? It's a moment of huge and philosophical importance: what is a good answer to this complicated question? There are a range of things one should never say - and one or two that will stand the best chance of cementing love.Uploaded 29-04-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/N6RgCBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/EABZ_FURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/2KBDkE5“Sometimes, and it often happens in bed, we face an acute test at the hands of a lover to whom we have pledged our affections. We are asked, with little warning, and in a serious tone: ‘What do you love me for?’ Few moments in a relationship can be as philosophical as this – or as…

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We're always being told that we should make peace with how we look; but why? We never chose our bodies and nor should we necessarily be forced to identify with them. They're like a random taxi we were shoved into at birth. We've been forced to play the facial lottery and most of us are deeply unhappy with the results - and should in our own ways be allowed to be.Uploaded 06-05-20FURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/3ckaeVK"A characteristic emotion on seeing a favourite novel turned into a film is puzzlement. We may not hate the actor playing a particular role, we might even find them rather beautiful, it’s just that they tend not to be as we imagined they should be. We never thought that Tolstoy’s Anna Karenina or Ishiguro’s Stevens or Jane Austen’s Marianne Dashwood or Scott Fitzgerald’s Gatsby would look like quite… like that!..."MORE SCHOOL OF LIFEWatch more films on SELF in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLselfSOCIAL MEDIAFeel free to follow us at the links…

We are unnecessarily scared of being on our own because we fail to keep in mind the distinction between solitude (a fine condition) and loneliness (a pain). We need to recover a sense of the good sides of being by ourselves - in order to be able to make the right choices around friendship and love.Uploaded 13-05-20FURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/2A9k7HI“In the privacy of our minds, one thought – highly shameful by nature – may haunt us as we evaluate whether to stay in or leave an unsatisfactory relationship: what if we were to end things and end up in a place of appalling loneliness? We’re meant to be above such pragmatic worries. Only cowards and reprobates would mind a few weekends (or decades) by themselves. We’ve heard of those books that sing the praises of solitude (the divorcee who relocated to a solitary hut on a bare Scottish island; the one who went sailing around the world in a dinghy). But we can admit that we’re not naturals at this sort of…

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'Mummy-fication' is the fateful process whereby a woman turns into a proxy of her partner's mother and the partner turns into a small recalcitrant boy: with disastrous consequences for all. SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ X: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life-for-business/ CREDITS Brought to you by http://www.theschooloflife.com Produced in collaboration with Khyan Mansley https://www.youtube.com/user/Khyan1 With Lucy Pearman - http://unitedagents.co.uk/lucy-pearman- Amir Khoshokhan - http://www.catfacetalent.com/comedians/amir-khoshokhan Steve Whitely - https://twitter.com/stevejwhiteley #TheSchoolOfLife Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Very high house prices aren’t an act of God or a fact of nature. They’re the result of all sorts of policy and design mistakes – which we should try to understand and correct. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/gt4GR Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/0Vd9y SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ X: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Brought to you by http://www.theschooloflife.com Produced in collaboration with Vale Productions http://www.valeproductions.co.uk #TheSchoolOfLife Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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One of the strangest things about relationships is that we aren’t free to get together with just anyone. We all have strong types: but where do these come from and what do they tell us about ourselves? Uploaded 30-03-16Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/aJtDMBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/VlqDWFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and many other topics here: https://goo.gl/nf8EVF MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE More films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist below: http://bit.ly/TSOLrelationships SOCIAL MEDIAFeel free to follow us at the links below:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ X: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITSProduced in collaboration with:Richard…

Pop music and philosophy would seem, at first glance, to have little to say to one another. But in fact the latter has a lot to learn from the former. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/EcfE7 Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/jZvoK Produced in collaboration with Mad Adam http://madadamfilms.co.uk #TheSchoolOfLife Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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We often believe that the very worst and most immature thing to do might be to cry about our sorrows. In fact, the ability to go off for a while and have a very intense cry about how awful everything is is in fact a crucial bit of wisdom - and a very adult move as well. Being a crybaby isn't just something children should be afraid of being called, it's something every adult should be proud to remember about themselves.Uploaded 20-05-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/2ZPQO Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/zErzDFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/2LDGFmv“One of the wisest things about young children is that they have no shame or compunction whatsoever about bursting into tears, perhaps because they have a more…

We often think that the best way to have friends is to be deeply impressive and accomplished. In fact, the route to true friendship always flows through vulnerability. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/Mv_Z8 Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/Z_qlW SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ X: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Brought to you by http://www.theschooloflife.com Produced in collaboration with Daniela Scherer http://www.danielasherer.com/ #TheSchoolOfLife Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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It’s all too easy to be extremely tough on ourselves; we need – at points – to get better at self-compassion. Here is an exercise in how to lessen the voices of self-flagellation. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/zH8ir Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/hIDQh The School of Life runs a global online psychotherapy service that assists clients from over 40 countries. To find out more and book a session today, please visit our website: https://t.ly/xP3EL FURTHER READING “When we fail and mess up in our lives (perhaps a project at work goes wrong or a relationship ends), our moods are at risk of heading towards two extremes: self-pity on the one hand, where it is exclusively everyone else’s fault and we bathe in a sense of our innocence and purity. And on the…

Many of us inhabit bodies and faces that don’t look as we feel they should. It’s one of the most painful aspects of being human. Here are a few minutes of consolation and wisdom. Uploaded 04-11-15Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/I78K0Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/PbPmjFURTHER READING“Frustration with one’s appearance is an embarrassing – but, in truth, highly serious and valid – pain. Mature, reasonable people are not supposed to go around regretting their nose or hair. Yet you gaze in the bathroom mirror and think: why – in my brief existence on this planet – does that have to be me?...”You can read more on this and many other topics here: https://goo.gl/h1LD7Q MORE SCHOOL OF LIFEMore films on SELF in our playlist below: http://bit.ly/TSOLself SOCIAL…

Impotence has been turned into a major medical problem and diagnosed as a psychological mishap of the first order. But it is also a very intriguing phenomenon that could throw a flattering light on its sufferers. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/7zw_a Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/EtDFz SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ X: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Brought to you by http://www.theschooloflife.com Produced in collaboration with Khyan Mansley http://www.youtube.com/khyan1 #TheSchoolOfLife Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re meant to be pleased for our friends when they do well. In theory. In reality, their success is often simply unendurable, acting as a reminder of our own setbacks and failures. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/G9tDm Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/Qrfet SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ X: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Brought to you by http://www.theschooloflife.com Produced in collaboration with Khyan Mansley http://www.youtube.com/Khyan1 #TheSchoolOfLife Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In moments of agitation, personal and nation-wide, what would often best calm us down are not pills or meditation - but the right works of art. Here are seven of the world's most calming works of art, works that know how to restore perspective, reassure us of the future and gently return us to a more bearable state.Uploaded 27-05-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/iXZBG Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/jhgxZFURTHER READINGYou can read more about this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/2XuP952“Art has never been mere entertainment. Alongside philosophy and religion, it has been humanity’s chief source of consolation. It is what we should turn to in our very worst moments. Here are seven of the most calming works of art ever produced....”MORE SCHOOL OF…

Oscar Niemeyer was a great 20th-century Brazilian architect who taught the world how to build in a way that was at once modern and local. He gave Brazil a hugely seductive identity that was in touch with the past but also hopeful about the future. Uploaded 05-06-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/tvuZ_ Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/q28wWFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/2XRFGF7“One of the most depressing aspects of travel is finding that the world often looks the same in many different places. The towers of downtown Tokyo are indistinguishable from those of Frankfurt or Seattle. That’s no coincidence. Modern architecture was founded on the idea that buildings should logically look the same everywhere. The…

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Though we all long to have our feelings and needs acknowledged, it seems that nothing is more common than for these to be neglected by people around us. We take so little time to listen to one another and to show that we have absorbed what people have told us. As a result, everyone gets increasingly angry and - deep inside - sad. The answer is to make the art of listening a global priority.Uploaded 11-06-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/hjofp Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/EnyPQFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/2BGovin“One of our deepest longings – deeper than we even perhaps recognise day to to day – is that other people should acknowledge certain of our feelings. We want that – at key moments – our…

It can seem as though we all need to learn to be less angry - and that no one has any problem raising their voice and getting their opinions across. The truth is more nuanced. A sizeable number of us suffer from shyness about expressing our real needs and our true aspirations - and thereby do ourselves and others a disservice. A short film which guides us to the need to speak up when we need to.Uploaded 17-06-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/SORMLBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/klhUCFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/thebookoflife/learning-how-to-be-angry/“There are many reasons to believe that one of the dominant problems in the world today is an excess of anger. We know all about the very shouty and their…

Le Corbusier is perhaps the 20th century's most influential architect, responsible for persuading us of the merits of modern design on a grand scale. His work was at points hugely beautiful and accomplished, and at others, terrifying and extremely unhelpful. Our film explores Le Corbusier's mixed legacy, and what we might learn from it for the future.Uploaded 20-06-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/qCFxoBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/Kvl-uFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/2AzrR6J“If the idea of being a ‘modern’ person and leading a ‘modern’ life still has an exciting ring to it, it’s at least in part down to the influence of an extraordinary Swiss architect Le Corbusier, who in the first half of the…

This is a film about how the world became modern - and in particular what is exciting and beautiful about this development, and at the same time, what is hugely depressing and possibly madness-inducing about it.Uploaded 24-06-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/wR_jA Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/-jv-JFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/37TKL47“Since the middle of the eighteenth century, beginning in Northern Europe and then spreading to every corner of the world, people have become aware of living in an age radically different from any other and which they have called – with a mixture of awe and respect, trepidation and nostalgia – ‘the modern age’, or more succinctly, ‘modernity’. We are now all inhabitants…

Some of the reason why we choose such unsuitable partners in love is that we aren't trying to find someone who ideally suits us, we're looking out for someone who feels familiar. We recreate in adulthood patterns of attachment that we know from childhood - and thereby often perpetuate cycles of suffering and dissatisfaction.Uploaded 01-07-20FURTHER READING"Konrad Lorenz, who was born in 1903 and died in 1989, was an Austrian ornithologist and zoologist who spent most of his adult life in marshes and wetlands studying the behaviour of greylag geese and jackdaws. What particularly interested him was how these birds seem to develop an attachment to their mother from within a few minutes of their birth, following dutifully behind her and obeying her guidance in matters of sheltering and feeding..."MORE SCHOOL OF LIFEWatch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLrelationshipsSOCIAL MEDIAFeel free to follow us at the links below:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ X:…

Having had a good enough parent is a vital component of mental health in adulthood. But what really is a good enough parent? How can one tell if one had one or not? This film guides us as to what might have gone very right - and sometimes very wrong - in our childhoods.Uploaded 08-07-20Sign up to our mailing list to receive 10% off your first order with us: https://r1.dotdigital-pages.com/p/6TU0-63X/hellotsolIf you want to keep working on your mental well-being and self-understanding, download our hugely helpful new app now: https://bit.ly/3uyXqG1For information on The School of Life’s learning and wellbeing solutions for businesses, including workshops and talks, visit https://bit.ly/3ICqvGw Email business@theschooloflife.com or join our monthly business newsletter: https://bit.ly/3ICEJHq Join this channel to get access to exclusive members perks:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog/joinFor books and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop:…

Feeling lonely can seem like a very modern problem - but our sense of being alone has a history, and the more we understand the peculiarities of this history, the more we can be liberated to enjoy - rather than feel ashamed about - our solitude.Uploaded 22-07-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/tqNFBBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/jSViEFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this here: https://bit.ly/2ZOpuGC“When we think of what might have been lost on the way to becoming modern, we’re liable to think about mealtimes: how seldom they now take place communally, how rare it is for whole families to gather, how much technology can intrude. In paintings of communal meals that reflect the older way of doing things, we can appreciate how all ages used to come…

A distinguishing feature of much of the modern man-made world is that it is, first and foremost, very ugly: disappointing modern architecture abounds. We've almost ceased to notice how awful a lot of it is and forgotten how much better we can do. Here are five central reasons why so many buildings have gone wrong and an urgent blueprint for how to build the more beautiful world we deserve.Uploaded 29-07-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/k_ZsnBe more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/kIJomFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/2P42lKi“One of the great generalisations we can make about the modern world is that it is, to an extraordinary degree, an ugly world. If we were to show an ancestor from 250 years ago around our…

We are used to religions telling us consoling and soothing things; but what we often miss is that science has just as many wise and kindly perspectives on our lives - if only we know how to look.Uploaded 05-08-20Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/S5uf3 Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/l8OMWFURTHER READINGYou can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/2PqfayK“According to a standard heroic secular account, at the start of the modern age and in just a few short decades, science was able to defeat religion through rigour and brilliance – and thereby forever liberated humankind from ignorance and superstition. For centuries, this account explains, religion had essentially been doing some very bad science. It had purported to tell us how old…