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Welcome back to another episode of ASK EMMA — and just to warn you, apparently, today, she's had just about enough of everyone's b*llshit. This week, Emma is going down the rabbit hole into the messy, uncomfortable, and sometimes totally degrading realities of modern dating, relationships, and friendships. From the classic debate of right person, wrong time to why emotionally unavailable men have us confusing anxiety with chemistry, she's unpacking the patterns that keep us accepting less than we deserve — and why recognizing a red flag means absolutely nothing if you're going to ignore it. We're talking situationships that have overstayed their welcome, exes who refuse to stay in the past, toxic friend groups, the difference between being wanted and being valued, and men who apparently need a congressional hearing to decide whether they want to go on a second date. This episode is part tough love, part reality check, and part Emma genuinely questioning what the f*ck is in the air right now??? Because at…

Well, this is one hell of a plot twist. A year and a half ago, Emma walked away from a podcast she helped build, lost everything she had worked for, and started over from scratch. Today, she's announcing the biggest career milestone of her life. In this very special episode of Too Much, Emma is taking you behind the scenes of how she turned one of the most devastating chapters of her life into her greatest comeback yet. From the fallout of Unhinged to an unexpected encounter on a date that changed the trajectory of her career, she's going down the rabbit hole about what it really takes to start over, bet on yourself, recognize opportunities, and become your own biggest advocate. Because here's the thing: you can manifest, romanticize, and visualize your dream life all you want, but at some point, you've got to get off your a** and go after it. This episode is for every woman who's ever been underestimated, told she's too much, or found herself starting over when she thought she had it all figured out. Turns…

What if the reason you’re upset they ignored the TikTok you sent them… has absolutely nothing to do with the TikTok? This week, we’re going down the rabbit hole of John and Julie Gottman's theory of the fundamental unit of emotional communication: bids for connection — the tiny, often invisible ways we ask the people we love to notice us, choose us. Emma gets into why seemingly insignificant moments can hurt so f*cking much, how repeated rejection can quietly create distance in relationships, and the difference between someone who simply doesn’t know how to love you the way you need — and someone who knows and still chooses not to. From ignored texts and missed affection to one particularly painful relationship where breadcrumbs started feeling like a feast, this episode is about the little moments that tell us a whole lot about the people we love — and ourselves. Plus, Spooky Season Series has OFFICIALLY entered the chat once again, with an audience ghost story to close out the episode. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go…

Going on vacation with someone sounds romantic until the flight gets canceled, someone’s hangry, the credit card declines, you haven’t had a bowel movement in five days, and suddenly the person you’ve been dating becomes a full-blown mammal. This week, Emma is going down the rabbit hole about why traveling with a partner — or someone you’ve known for approximately 19 business days — is one of the fastest ways to figure out what you’re actually working with. Because travel doesn’t necessarily change a relationship. It reveals it. From booking a trip on a FIRST DATE (yes, you read that right) to romantic trips that exposed some very unromantic truths, Emma gets into traveling too soon, manufactured intimacy, vacation love bombing, money, conflict, compatibility, and the dangerous little fantasy of cosplaying marriage in a hotel room. The question isn’t whether it’s “too soon” to take the trip. It’s what you’re making the trip mean. But in Emma's POV — the answer is usually, "fuck it. Book the trip. Just don’t…

When did “I don’t feel like it” become a good enough reason to stop showing up for the people we love? This week, Emma is going down the rabbit hole on one of her biggest pet peeves: bailing. The last-minute cancellations, the casual “sorry babe, can’t make it,” and the yes that apparently meant “I’ll decide how I feel that day.” Because somewhere between protecting our peace and honoring our boundaries, it appears we all forgot how to honor our word. Emma gets vulnerable about why being bailed on can feel so much bigger than a canceled plan, dating back to her abandonment wounds and following her up until a couple weeks ago when half the group trip bailed. She unpacks the difference between giving someone grace and ignoring a pattern, and when it’s finally time to stop extending invitations to people who keep showing you they won’t show up. Because relationships aren’t built on declarations — they’re built on evidence. And an honest no will always be better than an unreliable yes. So moral of the story —…

What if you love your life…and you’re still lonely as fuck? Emma is the happiest, most confident and fulfilled she’s ever been. Her career is growing, her friendships are strong, she feels good about herself—and for once, there’s no man wreaking havoc in the background. But this week, Emma goes down the rabbit hole on the kind of loneliness nobody talks about: the kind that can coexist with happiness. From realizing she doesn’t miss her ex, she misses having a “Sunday person,” to questioning whether she’s actually lonely or just experiencing life without romantic distraction for the first time, she gets brutally honest about what happens when your standards become stronger than your fear of being alone. If you’ve ever thought, “My life is really good, so why do I still feel lonely?” this one’s for you. You don’t have to pretend you don’t want love to prove you’re good at being single. Loneliness can visit your life without defining it. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your…

Ask Emma is BACK, which means a simple listener question is about to become a full-blown existential crisis. This week, Emma goes down the rabbit hole on dating fatigue, high standards vs. unrealistic expectations, and the question she hates admitting she’s asked herself: does she know too much about relationships to actually enjoy one? She’s talking being single for years without settling, catching feelings for a guy friend, slowing down sex without killing the chemistry, whether she’d date a man less successful than her, when to stop inviting the friend who never shows up, and why healthy love can feel suspiciously boring after you’ve been conditioned to chaos. Basically, if you’ve ever wondered whether you’re asking for too much, taking too long, moving too fast, choosing the wrong people, or becoming a little too self-aware for your own good — this one’s for you. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial…

Sometimes I feel like looking around your life and saying “wow, I’m so lucky” feels like it skips over the entire plot. The heartbreak. The rejection. The failures. The people who screwed you over. The days you were convinced your life was falling apart… that were actually quietly redirecting it. So in this episode, we’re rethinking gratitude entirely. I’m tracing the dominoes of my own life — from breakups and betrayal to trauma, career setbacks and some truly questionable men—to show you how some of the best things in my life exist because of some of the worst things that ever happened to me. And why asking “why me?” might be keeping you stuck in a story you haven’t gotten far enough away from to understand yet. Because your favorite part of your life might be downstream from the worst day of it. Don’t count your blessings. Trace them. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch For…

Just curious — when did we get so comfortable with having the same friends, same dinners, same group chat dissecting the same man for the 47th time? And then wonder why we keep getting the same answers? Consider this your wake up call... at some point, you’re feeding the same information into the same machine and expecting a different output. And it's gotta stop. This week, we’re going down the rabbit hole about why expanding your circle might be one of the most underrated ways to expand your life. Not social climbing, not collecting contacts and not ditching your longtime friends. We're talking about meeting new people, mixing friend groups, actually following up on the “we should get dinner” text, and realizing that new people bring new perspectives, opportunities, conversations — and sometimes entirely new versions of you. Emma shares her six-month scroll strategy she's been unknowingly used for years, why she shamelessly keeps extending the invite, and how bringing complete strangers together has changed…

Why are so many women staying single longer? Maybe because for the first time, we actually can. This week, we’re going down the rabbit hole on why women are getting married later, how financial independence completely changed the dating market, the male loneliness epidemic, and why our parents’ generation cannot seem to comprehend that being single in your 30s is not a medical emergency. Because when you’ve already built a life you love, a man isn’t competing with other men — he’s competing with your peace. We’re getting into the question every single woman has secretly asked herself: Are my standards too high, or have I just stopped accepting the bare minimum? Plus, Emma read your stories about marriage, kids, timelines and the pressure to “settle down” — and you guys made her bawl like a baby. Maybe women aren’t behind on marriage. Maybe marriage just isn’t allowed to be ahead of our happiness anymore. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up…

Have you ever been completely obsessed with someone who was giving you the absolute bare minimum… then you end, a couple weeks go by and you think to yourself, “WTF was I thinking?” Same. And we need to talk about it. This week, we’re going down the rabbit hole of rejection, validation, dating anxiety and the sneaky way your ego can turn romantic relationships into a competition where every text is a point, every delayed response is a loss and suddenly you’re fighting tooth and nail for someone you’re not even sure you like. Emma is breaking down why rejection can make us want someone more, how to tell the difference between genuinely missing someone and just needing them to regret losing you, and the question that might save you from wasting six months trying to prove your worth to a person who was never aligned with the plot in the first place. Consider this your intervention: you need to stop asking, “How do I get them to choose me?” and start asking whether, it’s really them you want at all? EPISODE…

What if the things you've always called your personality... aren't actually your personality? What if being "independent," "bad at asking for help," a perfectionist, a people pleaser, or someone who always overexplains isn't just who you are—but who you had to become? In this episode, we're unpacking trauma responses: where they come from, why your brain keeps repeating the same patterns in relationships, friendships, and dating, and how to stop letting old wounds make decisions for your present life. We'll talk about hyper-independence, self-sabotage, perfectionism, validation seeking, emotional regulation, nervous system triggers, and the one question that can instantly tell you whether you're reacting to what's happening... or what happened years ago. Because healing isn't never getting triggered again. It's realizing who's actually sitting in the driver's seat before you let them take the wheel. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for…

If you've ever mentally rehearsed what you'd do if you ran into your ex... buckle up. Because one day, it's gonna happen. This week, Emma's telling you the story of the most chaotic first date of her life — a night that somehow involved her ex, some martinis and a YB. You truly cannot make this shit up. But here's the part that will surprise you.. This episode isn't about him. It's about what your reaction to seeing your ex actually says about where you are in your healing. We're going down the rabbit hole about the scaries we get over seeing our exes, why we secretly hope we'll run into them, the burning desire for them to see our glow-up, why seeing them with someone new feels like someone knocked the wind out of you, and the biggest lie we tell ourselves after a breakup: that seeing them one more time will finally give us closure. If you're scared of bumping into your ex, still checking their Instagram, secretly hoping they regret losing you, or wondering if you're actually over them this will be your…

Everyone wants permission before they change their life. Permission to quit the job, leave the relationship, start the business, move across the country, hit publish, bet on themselves. Here's the problem: no one's coming to give it to you. This week, Emma sits down with legendary music executive Charlie Walk — the man who helped build the careers of some of the world’s greatest artists like John Mayer, Ariana Grande and so many more, by spotting greatness before the rest of the world caught on. The two go down the rabbit hole about the one thing every successful person has in common: they trusted themselves before anyone else did. This isn't a conversation about the music industry, it's a conversation about your life. Emma and Charlie unpack the difference between intuition and ego, why your gut knows long before your brain catches up, how to stop looking for certainty before making a move, and why getting fired, failing publicly, losing people, and starting over might be the best things that ever happen to…

If you've ever mistaken butterflies for a green flag, this might save you years of your dating life. We're constantly told “when you know, you know”, there should be fireworks and that if the chemistry is undeniable, this has got to be your person. But what if the very thing making your heart race is also the thing keeping you stuck? This week, Emma goes full Bill Nye and breaks down the science behind attraction, dating chemistry, and long-term compatibility. From the chemical cocktail our brains like to concoct to why hot-and-cold behavior is literally addictive, she explains what's actually happening inside your brain when someone gives you butterflies — and why that feeling isn't always being honest with you. Through personal dating stories, modern relationship psychology, attachment styles, and the uncomfortable truths we were never taught, Emma goes down the rabbit hole about why so many of us chase people who wreak havoc on our nervous systems, and walk away from the people who are actually good for…

Turns out the people leaving Cannes Lions with the biggest opportunities weren't the smartest, richest, or most successful people in the room. They were the ones everyone remembered. After two weeks of networking her way through Saint-Tropez, Cannes Lions, and a Hamptons weekend that included lost luggage, international ghosting and a few ex sightings, Emma goes down the rabbit hole on the career lessons that changed the way she thinks about success from keeping sesame seeds out of her teeth to how to master the art of following up. This isn't another episode telling you to "put yourself out there", it's the psychology behind first impressions, why some people become impossible to forget, the networking mistakes quietly costing you opportunities, and the tiny social hacks that make people want to open doors for you. Whether you're trying to land your dream job, grow your business, build a personal brand, or simply stop feeling awkward walking into a room where you don't know anyone, this episode is your…

Sometimes the advice you need isn't the advice you asked for. Different from her typical ASK EMMA's, this week, Emma opens the inbox and goes down the rabbit hole of your biggest dating, relationship and heartbreak stories — from Instagram red flags, zaddies turned age-gap romances to breakups that still don't make sense, partners who rewrite your reality, and the painful difference between choosing what you want versus choosing what you deserve. If you've ever wondered whether you're overthinking, settling, being strung along, or simply ignoring your own intuition, this episode is the reality check your group chat couldn't give you. Emma slaps you out of your delusion and reminds you that although it may suck, choosing yourself is never considered a loss. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com ⁠Shop the…

How many times have you said "I'm fine" when you were anything but? In this weeks episode, Emma goes down the rabbit hole into the unspoken reality of being a woman: somehow holding it all together while quietly falling apart. The heartbreak, the grief, the loneliness, the pressure, the expectations — and the way so many of us have learned to smile through all of it despite wanting to rip a few heads off. From hyper-independence and people pleasing to the invisible weight women carry every single day, Emma explores why being "strong" isn't always a flex, why so many women struggle to ask for help, and how we've confused resilience with silence. This is a conversation about the version of you that keeps showing up, keeps performing, keeps carrying everything alone — and what might happen if you stopped pretending you were fine all the time. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch…

She loves a filthy martini. She loves a good story. She loves a night that accidentally turns into sunrise. So why is Emma really suddenly questioning alcohol? In this week's episode, Emma gets brutally honest about her relationship with drinking — from high school woods parties and New York City nightlife to finding every reason under the sun to celebrate over a cocktail, she has finally come to the realization that not every habit that feels good is helping you become who you want to be. This isn't an episode about rock bottom. It's about the moment you realize your dreams are starting to cost more than just a hangover. Emma goes down the rabbit hole about the uncomfortable question that changed everything: Are you choosing temporary dopamine over your permanent potential? If you've been feeling tired, uninspired, stuck, or like you're somehow getting in your own way, this conversation might hit closer to home than you expect. Because sometimes the problem isn't that something is ruining your life. It's…

Everybody always talks about the ex, but Emma thinks we’re asking the wrong question. Because when a friend gets involved with someone you’ve dated, it’s rarely about the guy. It’s about loyalty. It’s about trust. And it’s about the uncomfortable moment when someone’s actions force you to reevaluate what your friendship actually meant to them. With all the Summer House Reunion drama going on, this week, Emma is going down the rabbit hole into the messy gray area that is girl code: Are all exes off-limits? Is there a statute of limitations on heartbreak? What makes one situation forgivable and another friendship-ending? And why does finding out your friend is with your ex sometimes hurt more than the breakup itself? With her signature big sister advice and tough love, Emma unpacks the unspoken rules of friendship, betrayal, boundaries, and the difference between what you’re allowed to do and what you should do. Because sometimes the real heartbreak isn’t losing the relationship. It’s losing the friend.…

This week's ASK EMMA is probably one of her most brutal yet. What started with a question about feeling lonely when all your friends are in relationships, somehow spirals into a full-blow decent down the rabbit hole about self-worth, friendship breakups, situationships, closure, second chances, birthday existential crises, and why some of the loneliest people aren't actually single at all. Emma answers audience questions giving big sister advice on why we think we're behind in life, why "right person, wrong time" is usually just a cuter way of saying "wrong person," and the uncomfortable truth about staying connected to people we've already outgrown. She shares her thoughts on emotional availability, hyper-independence, dating after heartbreak, and the difference between being chosen and simply kept on the f*cking back burner. Equal parts reality check and pep talk, this episode is a reminder that your life is not on hold just because something — or someone — you wanted hasn't happened yet. EPISODE SPONSORS:…

This week on Too Much, Emma asks the question we’re all thinking but somehow still tolerating: when did basic human decency become “relationship goals”? Since when are we handing out gold medals because someone texted back, planned a date, or remembered we exist for longer than 12 hours? From receiving the bare minimum and emotional unavailability to “cool girl” conditioning and the psychological addiction of intermittent reinforcement, Emma goes down the rabbit hole on why people today are getting confusion and chemistry so twisted. And after finding herself recently (almost) accepting the bottom of the barrel she preaches against, she gets brutally honest about what it actually looks like to walk away from someone you care about when they can’t meet your needs. This episode is unhinged, slightly pissed off, deeply self-aware, and probably the wake-up call half of us need. Because relationships are supposed to feel nourishing — not like a full-time forensic investigation. The bar isn’t low anymore. It’s in…

This week on Too Much, Emma goes down the rabbit hole about one of the most dangerous things in modern dating: the marathon date. The 12-hour first date that turns into brunch, drinks, deep trauma dumping, making out at sunset, a sleepover, breakfast the next morning — and suddenly your brain is convinced you’ve found your husband after knowing a man for 14 business hours. Emma tells the story of what might still be the best first date of her life, then breaks down the psychology behind compressed intimacy, why chemistry clouds discernment, and how we end up falling in love with potential instead of patterns. It’s a brutally honest conversation about dopamine, attachment, fantasy, emotional pacing, and why someone can slow dance with you under the stars and still not be emotionally available. Romantic. Delusional. Slightly concerning. Extremely relatable. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at…

Emma’s week started with champagne, weddings, rooftop spritzes, late nights, hot guys and a calendar packed with glamorous NYC events… and somehow ended with her having a full menty b on the studio floor questioning whether she’s been abandoning herself the entire time. In one of her most honest episodes yet, she pulls back the curtain on the very unsexy side of chasing a big life: the exhaustion, the partying disguised as “networking,” the pressure to be everywhere, and the uncomfortable realization that sometimes the person getting in your way of growth… is you. From dating, drinking and dopamine highs to boundaries, discipline and the terrifying art of saying no, Emma goes down the rabbit hole into the difference between building a life and just being busy in one. She unpacks the hidden ways self-abandonment shows up in friendships, careers, relationships and even “fun,” while introducing the mindset shift that finally slapped her out of her own delulu: not every opportunity actually moves the needle.…

Emma wasn't quite sure what she was going to talk about today — until she woke up to a text from someone ending something she didn’t even realize was… a thing. Instead of spiraling or getting upset, she got curious. And that curiosity turned into today’s rabbit hole deep dive on dating apps. Not just what they are, but what they’ve actually done to the way we date, think, and connect. This episode pulls back the curtain on swipe culture, the illusion of options, and why your three week-long conversation with “Brian Raya” that feels consistent can still mean absolutely nothing. Emma breaks down the psychology behind it all — why dating apps can feel addictive yet empty, the inevitable feeling of being disposable, and why men and women can walk away from the same experience with completely different interpretations. And no, Emma’s not telling you to delete the apps for the fifth time this year — but she is giving you the ice cold reality check you probably didn’t know you needed. Because in the age of modern…

This week, we’re not talking about dating. Or ghosting. Or situationships. We’re talking about something that’s quietly running the show in every relationship in your life — and something that most people get completely wrong. Conflict resolution. Emma opens up about a pattern she’s carried for years… one that didn’t just create tension, but cost her real relationships. And the worst part? She didn’t even realize it was happening. Then she goes down the rabbit hole about the reframe that changed the way she approached every single relationship and friendship in her life. This episode isn’t about how to win in a fight — it’s about what’s actually going on underneath every conflict, understanding the way you react, the way things fall apart and how to get better at communicating. Conflict and getting into fights is unavoidable — but how you move through them is something you're about to get a lot better at. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up…

In this week’s episode, Emma goes down the rabbit hole on one of the most overused phrases in modern dating — and why it might not mean what you think it does. Fresh off clearing her own roster, Emma breaks down why situationships aren’t some harmless gray area — but a dynamic rooted in misalignment, self-abandonment, and accepting less than you actually want. So what are situationships really? Why do people end up there? And more importantly — why is it so hard to leave? From breadcrumb behavior to the illusion of control, Emma’s making you to take a look in the mirror to face where you might be settling, shrinking, or straight-up lying to yourself — and she’s not sorry about it. If you’ve ever found yourself saying “it’s complicated”… this one’s going to make you think twice. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch Head to wayfair.com April 25th through the 27th to shop the Way…

This episode hits a little closer to home than most. Emma goes down the rabbit hole into a topic she’s touched on before but never fully unpacked — something that quietly shapes how you see yourself, how you show up in relationships, and how you move through the world. It’s one of those things you don’t always question… until suddenly everything starts to click. Birth order. In this week’s episode, she explores the dynamics that form long before you have a say in them, and how those early roles can follow you into adulthood in ways you don’t even realize (like having a full on menty B when someone so much as interrupts you). From identity and communication to relationships and self-perception, this conversation will connect dots you didn’t even know were there. It’s personal, it’s honest, and it might make you look at your own life — and the people in it —a little differently. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, underestimated, or like you’ve had to prove yourself in ways you can’t quite explain… this one…

What if the thing you’re worried is making you undateable… is actually your biggest advantage? This week, Emma goes down the rabbit hole about a question that’s been quietly shaping her dating life, her career, and how she shows up in the world: does being unapologetically yourself push people away… or reveal who was never meant for you in the first place? From navigating the chaotic streets (aka dating in nyc) with a public platform, to the reality of being misunderstood before someone even buys you a drink, to the subtle ways we all edit ourselves to be more “digestible,” this episode pulls apart the tension between authenticity and acceptance. Emma unpacks the psychology behind snap judgments, the pressure to explain yourself to every brad we meet on Raya, and why so many people confuse misalignment with rejection. She also shares some of her most recent, unhinged dating sagas that forced her to confront a hard truth about what it actually means to stand in who you are — without shrinking, softening, or…

In this week’s ASK EMMA episode, Emma dives into real listener questions about modern dating, relationships, friendship breakups, and everything in between — from cheating and whether it can ever truly be forgiven, to the reality of casual dating, situationships, and why people claim they’ve moved on… but keep weaponizing the past instead. She goes deep down the rabbit hole about friendship dynamics, abandonment issues, her favorite parts of being single, and how to actually stop spiraling once you’ve chosen yourself. It’s unfiltered, unplanned, and brutally honest (per usual) — covering dating in your 30s, setting standards, navigating post-breakup life, and protecting your peace in a world that will constantly test it. If you’ve ever questioned your relationships, your boundaries, or your own patterns… this one will hit. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch Head to wayfair.com…

This week, Emma is getting the man brain mansplained to her with an expert on all things love and relationships, Taylor Love. Taylor and Emma go deep down the rabbit hole about modern dating dynamics— think the hard truth about breadcrumbing, the difference between masculine vs. feminine energy, why attraction feels so confusing right now, and the patterns women keep finding themselves stuck in. But this isn’t just theory — it’s awareness. Emma not only weaves in her own experiences, calling out the ways women romanticize potential, ignore bad behavior, and lose themselves in imagined futures, but has her own mind blown from what Taylor reveals about how the mind actually works. From decoding mixed signals to calling out the real reason “he’s not ready for a relationship” and the truths no one wants to admit about desire, behavior, and control, this episode challenges everything you think you know about dating and the man brain in 2026. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of confusion, chasing potential, or…

This week’s episode of Too Much is a bit different. Instead of breaking down a modern dating term or offering a some psychological framework, Emma is going down the rabbit hole to somewhere far more personal: her lifelong struggle with body image. From starting her gym regimen at only 12 years old to years of yo-yo dieting, FaceTune edits, and the quiet mental math around food, Emma opens up about the internal battle she’s fought for decades — and why body image isn’t actually about what your body looks like, but what your brain thinks it looks like. Emma unpacks her body dysmorphia, the early moments that planted the seeds of insecurity, and how comparison culture — from early social media to today’s dating apps and runway trends — has only amplified the noise in our heads. She also shares the deeply personal decision she made when she finally reached a breaking point with that internal war — a choice many people have opinions about, but few talk about honestly. There’s no neat solution at the end of this…

What if the reason you can’t move on… is because you never actually let go? This week, Emma goes down the rabbit hole on one of the most misunderstood breakup strategies in modern dating: no contact. And no — it’s not a trick to get your ex back. It’s a strategy to get yourself back. In another slap-you-out-of-your-delulu episode, Emma breaks down the psychology behind why breakups feel like withdrawal, why people fail at no contact, her experience with it and the subtle ways we keep ourselves emotionally tethered to people who are no longer good for us. From dopamine addiction and breadcrumbing to the hard truth about why people reach out to their exes, she unpacks what’s really happening inside your brain when you’re tempted to reopen the door. Whether it’s an ex, a toxic friendship, or someone who keeps disrupting your peace, this episode is a wake-up call that distance isn’t about punishment, the fact that there is a mental rewiring required to move on, and Emma reveals the one question you should ask…

If you think dating fatigue is just a side effect of modern dating… think again. This week, Emma is going down the rabbit hole about what dating fatigue actually is — and why it has less to do with bad first dates and more to do with how much of yourself you’re giving away too soon. Because spoiler alert: burnout doesn’t come from going on too many dates… We’re talking: Why dating feels exhausting even when you “like” someone The psychology behind attachment acceleration The real cost of 24/7 texting and trauma dumping Why “doing too much too soon” is self-abandonment And how to pace yourself without becoming cold or strategic If you’ve ever thought, “I can’t do this again” after a situationship ends — this episode is for you. Dating isn’t supposed to feel like depletion. It’s supposed to feel like possibility. Let’s go down the rabbit hole. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Visit RO.co/TOOMUCH for your free GLP-1 insurance check Head to…

In this week’s episode of Too Much, Emma is going down the rabbit hole about one of the most highly requested (and painfully universal) topics: ghosting. What seems like a simple dating annoyance quickly unravels into something much deeper — touching on abandonment wounds, ego, attachment styles, and the psychological spiral that silence can trigger. Without giving away all the juicy details, this episode unpacks on why ghosting feels so destabilizing, what it really says about the person doing it, and the uncomfortable ways we sometimes make it hurt worse for ourselves. Emma spills on her most recent ghosting sagas, some hard truths, and the mindset shifts that she promises will change everything — especially if you’ve ever found yourself overthinking, spiraling, or wondering what you “did wrong.” This one is equal parts validating and tough love. If you’ve ever been left on read and in your head, this one is for you. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day…

Some people you meet in your life and you just know they’re built differently — not because everything is easy for them, but because they keep showing up anyway. This week, Kendall Toole is in the Too Much studio to talk about the moments that knocked her down, the ones that almost knocked her out, and how she rebuilt into the version of herself she fought for. If you know Kendall from Rumble Boxing or her rise as a Peloton instructor, you’ve seen the highlight reel. This episode is the real story — the one underneath the bubbly-on-camera version. Kendall opens up about growing up with OCD, depression and intrusive thoughts, how “achievement = worth” became her default coping mechanism, what her darkest season looked like in college at USC, and the words that changed everything: “They can knock you down, but they can never knock you out.” Something that carried her through became a community, a mantra, and eventually her next chapter as a founder. Emma and Kendall go down the rabbit hole about what healing…

This week, Emma is back with another Ask Emma episode with zero agenda and maximum honesty. From surviving the dating app trenches without losing your will to live, to decoding what “I want casual” really means, she breaks down modern dating with tough love and zero sugarcoating. She gets into how to stay grounded when other people make you doubt yourself, why magnetism in dating has everything to do with energy and boundaries, and the science behind letting people chase instead of chasing them. Emma also answers some personal questions about repairing fights with parents, swallowing pride, and choosing resolution over being “right.” It’s equal parts big sister advice, blunt reality checks, and late-night life philosophy — covering relationships, confidence, growth, and the uncomfortable truths we all need to hear. No filter, no theme, just classic rabbit-hole Emma energy. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Visit RO.co/TOOMUCH for your free GLP-1…

This week Emma goes down a rabbit hole on red flags — and not only Emma's list of red flags, but why they matter, and why they’re not the same thing as an “ick.” A red flag isn’t about taste. It’s about predictability. The small, easy-to-dismiss behaviors that seem harmless early on, but quietly reveal how someone handles accountability, communication, boundaries, empathy, and effort once things get real. Emma breaks down why so many of us ignore these signs (chemistry, loneliness, hope, “benefit of the doubt”), why intent doesn’t cancel impact, and how to date with your eyes open without becoming cynical. We've all heard people's red flags but this list goes so, so much deeper. Some funny, some brutal, all painfully telling — plus, Emma spills on what each one tends to predict down the line. Listen through, take notes, and then drop yours: what’s the red flag you clock immediately, every single time? EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Visit…

Welcome to SEASON 2! One year ago, Emma walked out of a room that was rejecting who she was and built a new one from scratch — alone, delusional, and hell-bent on choosing herself. Twelve months later, Too Much is no longer an idea or a risk — it’s a platform, a community, and the result of one woman refusing to settle for chaos, optics, or timelines that weren’t meant for her. In this episode, Emma celebrates the one-year anniversary of Too Much not with a highlight reel or a gratitude montage (although there’s a little of that in the beginning), but by dissecting the actual cost of peace: the humiliation of walking away without applause, the ego funeral necessary to start from zero, and the deeply unsexy process of outgrowing relationships, identities, and rooms you once prayed you’d get into. From legal battles to breakups to the Emma-coined “new room” phase where silence forces you to meet yourself — Emma breaks down what choosing yourself really takes, and why the sacrifice is worth it. If you’re in an…

This week, Emma is going down the rabbit hole about the villain origin story of all our abandonment and self-esteem issues: the words we speak (and don’t). From bullying and humiliation to rejection and why one throwaway comment from a 12-year-old can take 20 years to unlearn — Emma is breaking down how the brain prioritizes threats over compliments and how those middle-school identity formation years end up influencing who we date and how we cope. Emma also tells the high school story she’s never really unpacked publicly — the one that confirmed her abandonment wounds, trust issues, and hyper-independence weren’t personality traits so much as survival skills. If you’ve ever laid awake at night thinking about something someone said to you in seventh grade while your adult brain is like…hello?? We’re still doing this??? then welcome. You’re not alone. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Visit OliveandJune.com/TOOMUCH for 20% off your first System!…

Future faking has officially entered the chat. This week, Emma is back in the studio for her first solo of 2026, and is going down the rabbit hole about the people who sell you a future they were never planning to build. She breaks down why it feels so intoxicating, why it accelerates attachment, and why it doesn’t just break your heart — it breaks your self-trust. And in true Too Much fashion, it’s not just theory. Emma shares a wildly chaotic 72-hour case study involving Miami, a yacht, a monogamy declaration, lingerie in Soho…and a ghosting for the books. This episode is part PSA, part big-sister debrief, part reminder that your boundaries are not the problem — they’re the filter. Emma talks about the difference between expressing the future you want and promising a shared future you haven’t earned yet, how to clock future fakers early, and how to shut it down without becoming cynical about love. If you’ve ever been love bombed, future faked, or left grieving a future that never existed, this one will…

For the first episode of the year, we’re entering uncharted territory: Emma is bringing a man into the studio. Enter Niko Emanuilidis, host of The Daddy Academy — internet “daddy,” modern-day Hitch, and the first guest of 2026. Emma and Niko are going down the dating rabbit hole with a candid, unfiltered conversation about modern dating, masculinity (or the lack there of) and of course, where to find hot single men in NYC. Together, Emma and Niko unpack the gray areas no one wants to admit out loud: early chemistry vs. future-faking, confidence vs. love bombing, why dating feels like it sucks right now, and what actually signals real interest. Then, Emma puts Niko in the hot seat as he answers listener-submitted questions covering first-date dynamics, texting rules, exclusivity timelines, rosters, ghosting, icks, attraction, and the subtle behaviors that separate emotionally available men from men who just like to mess with your head. Whether you’re looking for tips to date as a man or a woman, questioning…

As the year comes to a close, Emma sits down for an unfiltered, end-of-year reflection that has nothing to do with “New Year, New Me” and everything to do with who she actually showed up as in 2025. Look back with Emma on the most evolutionary year of her life — from walking away from a podcast she built from the ground up, to launching Too Much from scratch, to navigating a life-altering breakup, a move, and a complete redefinition of what choosing yourself really means. She’s going down the rabbit hole down on why the new year isn’t always about reinvention, but about integration, self-trust, and honoring the version of you that survived what you didn’t plan for. This episode is about boundaries that cost you something, resilience that surprises you, and the quiet wins that don’t show up on a highlight reel — the no’s you said, the times you walked away, and the moments you refused to self-abandon even when it would’ve been easier to stay. After laying 2025 to rest, Emma shares how she’s thinking about…

The holidays are here and Emma is going down the rabbit hole on something many people quietly struggle with this time of year: getting comfortable being alone. In this episode, Emma is unpacking the crucial difference between being alone and feeling lonely — why they’re not the same thing, how each shows up differently in our lives, and why the holidays tend to magnify both. Drawing from her own experiences with breakups, friendship loss, moving across the country, and spending Christmas alone when she never expected to, were getting into the psychology behind loneliness, why it can feel physically painful, and how our brains are wired to resist solitude. But this episode isn’t about “fixing” loneliness or pretending it doesn’t exist. It’s about reframing it — learning how to meet your own emotional needs, self-regulate, and build trust with yourself so that connection becomes a choice, not a survival mechanism. This is a reflective, honest look inward about breakups, comparison culture, social media during…

This week, Emma goes down the rabbit hole about everything we get wrong about first dates — and how to stop sabotaging them before they even start. From why first dates trigger anxiety, to how fear of rejection turns into “pick me” energy, Emma reframes dating as data collection, not an audition. She walks through how to regulate your nerves before a date, how to stay grounded and authentic while you’re on it, and how to avoid oversharing, trauma dumping, or performing for approval. Emma lays out her personal first-date rulebook: what to share, what to hold back, how to spot red flags like love bombing and future faking, and why compatibility matters more than chemistry. She also gets brutally honest about post-date spiraling — decoding texts, delayed communication, breadcrumbing — and why your worth needs to stay out of the conversation. If you’ve ever overthought a first date, romanticized potential, or felt crushed by silence afterward, this one will change how you approach dating forever. EPISODE…

This week, Emma is taking a beat on talking about relationships and men (finally) and is going down the rabbit hole about the people who have carried her through the wildest year of her life: her friends. She’s covering everything the real soulmates we find as adults, why friendship becomes the backbone of your life in your thirties, how adult friendships evolve and what it actually means to nurture the friendships that keep you standing when everything else is burning. This one is raw, emotional, unexpectedly tear-stained, and full of the kind of tough love that will have you on the phone with the coworker you trauma-bonded with three years ago before the episode even ends. Emma breaks down the patterns she had to outgrow, the accountability she had to learn, the support she didn’t know she was allowed to receive, and the three rules she swears every adult needs if they want friendships that last decades — not seasons. It’s equal parts confession, call-to-action, and a love letter to the women who showed up…

This week, Emma gets brutally honest about why so many women are stuck in their masculine energy — and why she’s officially done living in fight-or-flight for men who can’t lead, can’t decide, and can’t show up. After a chaotic, emotional weekend of moving, parties, and running into people she did not need to see, she breaks down the moment she realized she’s been carrying way too much in her relationships. Emma goes down the rabbit hole into the real psychology behind masculine vs. feminine energy (hint: it’s not gender, it’s survival mode), how women get pushed into “wearing the pants,” and the effort gap that’s dragging modern dating into the trenches. She lays out the red flags, the patterns, and the exact traits that separate boys from men — plus what it actually takes to feel safe enough to soften again. There’s a surprising reunion, a reality check she didn’t see coming, and a look into what dating is going to look like for her now: higher standards, stronger boundaries, and absolutely no mothering…

This week, Emma she sits down for another no-theme, no-filter ASK EMMA where nothing is off-limits. From navigating your “chronically single” era without losing your mind, to reframing self-worth, to what it actually looks like to choose yourself and move forward, Emma took your questions and is giving the tough-love big sister advice you will actually use. She goes down the rabbit hole about dating in New York City, uncertainty, how to stop missing someone, lovebombing, boundaries, and why being alone and being lonely are not the same thing. If you're in your single girl training season, post-breakup rebirth, or just trying to remember you're the prize — this one is for you. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to HelloFresh.com/TOOMUCH10FM now to Get 10 Free Meals + a Free Breakfast for Life! Visit Rula.com/toomuch to get quality therapy that’s covered by insurance. Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Visit OliveandJune.com/TOOMUCH for 20% off your first System! For collaborations…

This week, Emma is going down the rabbit hole on the one thing that determines every dating outcome, every relationship dynamic, and every “WTF am I doing” moment: boundaries. Fresh off her own breakup and officially in her NYC single-era renaissance, she breaks down how boundaries show up in early dating, long-term relationships, and those confusing almost-situationships that plague the modern dating world. Emma is unpacking the non-negotiables and hard-stop boundaries, how to communicate them without sounding unhinged, how to filter out the wrong people instantly, and why dating in your 30s is basically one long psychological experiment in self-respect. And now that she’s back on the market, Emma is sharing her own Non-Negotiable List she’ll be packing on every date so that you can start yours too. Whether you’re newly single, chronically disappointed by the apps, or just tired of abandoning yourself for men who can’t plan a date, this episode is a masterclass in choosing yourself first — then choosing…

This is an episode Emma never thought she'd have to record. In Part Two of her time-capsule episode, she returns with the update no one expected: Emma and “Mr. Right” are have broken up. No sob story, no dragging — just radical honesty. From cognitive dissonance to sunk-cost fallacy, she breaks down how a picture-perfect love unraveled after she recorded Part One on September 23rd, why misaligned futures can masquerade as “almost right,” and what choosing yourself actually looks like. This isn’t a story about blame — it’s about bravery. About walking away from someone good because it’s no longer right. About trusting your gut when your head and heart are at war. Emma shares the raw, unfiltered truth about what it really means to outgrow a love you thought would last forever. Watch the full video episode on YouTube. EPISODE SPONSORS: Get 15% off your Schedule35 orders with code TOOMUCH at Schedule35.co Get 20% off your first month of Seed’s DS-01® Daily Synbiotic at seed.com/TOOMUCH20 with code TOOMUCH20 Go…